How to get my baby to sleep?

This question can be divided into 3 sections:

  1. How to initially get my baby to sleep when he doesn’t want to fall asleep
  2. How to get my baby to sleep for longer?
  3. How to get my baby to sleep through the night?

1.  How to initially get my baby to sleep when he doesn’t want to  fall     asleep

One of the biggest reasons why baby’s don’t fall asleep is over tiredness.  When a baby is overtired, they work themselves UP instead of DOWN and then it is very difficult to get your baby to fall asleep (for a nap/bedtime).  Then you have a baby who arches backwards and just keeps crying.  Maximum awake times between naps are very important.  If your baby’s maximum awake time is 2 hours, put him down at 2 hours, even if he doesn’t look tired.  A lot of babies don’t show tired signs, but when they start showing signs, it’s already too late.  See table below for the maximum awake time between naps for your baby’s age.



Here is a few things you can do to improve “falling asleep”

  • Don’t make your your baby overtired
  • When you are at home, always have his sleeps in his cot, in his room
  • Your baby’s room must be dark (day and night)
  • Have a nap routine:
    • Tell your baby it’s nap time
    • Walk him to his room
    • Change the nappy
    • Sleeping bag/swaddle
    • In cot AWAKE


  • Bedtime routine
    • Bath
    • PJ’s (In baby’s room)
    • Milk feed + Story
    • Sleeping bag/Swaddle
    • In cot AWAKE
  • Consistency – Have the same routine (Eat, Play, Sleep) everyday.  If you have the same routine everyday, you baby will get familiar with the routine, he will start to recognition the signals and signs and he will know what is expected from him –> SLEEP

2.  How to get my baby to sleep for longer:

The one big reason why your baby don’t sleep for long periods is because he is unable to resettle back to sleep.  We all have a sleep cycle.  When we sleep, we go in and out of sleep and even wake up a few times, but because we can resettle back to sleep, we don’t remember waking up in the first place.  An adult’s sleep cycle is 90 minutes and a baby’s cycle is 45 minutes.  When a baby only sleeps for 45 minutes and is unable to go back to sleep, he catnaps.

Here is a few things you can do to improve “sleeping for longer”

  • Get rid of sleep associations like dummies, rocking to sleep, patting to sleep, feeding to sleep and co-sleeping. When babies rely on sleep association in order to go to sleep, they will need it to resettle back to sleep which will always involve YOU.  that’s what you want to change.
  •  Make your baby’s room very dark during the day.  When he wakes between sleep cycles and there is nothing to focus on because it’s too dark, he has a better chance to resettle and go back to sleep.  The dark room will also increase Melatonin levels in the body which will definitely improve sleep.
  • Your baby must fall asleep in his cot, NOT in your arms
  • Your baby must be AWAKE in his cot when going to sleep, NOT drowsy.

3.  How to get my baby to sleep through the night?

One of the biggest reasons why babies don’t sleep through the night is because of sleep associations. Sleep associations are external strategies (like dummies, rocking to sleep, patting to sleep, feeding to sleep, co-sleeping) your baby relies on in order to go to sleep and/or resettle back to sleep in the middle of the night.  When they rely on external strategies to go to sleep and resettle back to sleep, they don’t have an internalised skill.  Once you remove the external strategies (sleep associations) and teach your baby an internalised skill (via sleep training), your baby will start sleeping through the night.

Along with the removal of sleep associations, you also need to look at your baby’s day and night routine and sleep environment like discussed before.  When you fix all 3 aspects (sleep associations, sleep environment and routine), you will have a baby who will start sleeping through the night within 7 days.




I’m Christine, the founder of Happy Sleepers. I am an ICU nurse, Midwife, Qualified Sleep Consultant and I’m a mum of twins.  I’ve helped 100’s of babies and parents in the past and now I’m here to help YOU! 🙂

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She has made my family so much happier, and we are all getting the rest we need!

I first turned to happy sleepers when my son was 4 months old, i spoke to Christine on the phone and decided to not go ahead with the program because i thought my baby was to young, i contacted her again at 5 months and still didn’t go ahead, it was more so the fact that I wasn’t ready, i didn’t think id be able to do it being so sleep deprived!
But when it came to my son being 8 months, waking up every 40 mins through the night, and NOTHING was working getting him back to sleep i knew it was time to contact Christine and do the program.
I was sooo excited to start the program, and i seen results on night one. He only woke twice! Then he went back to 1 night waking for about a week!
Now he is sleeping through the night. It was hard work i wont lie, but christine was so supporting and encouraging, i didnt want to give up! I knew this would be best for both of us in the end.
And we are both so so much happier for having the sleep we need.
We had been to 2 sleep schools, we had seen doctors osteopaths, chriopractors, natropaths because i literally thought my baby had something waking him up!
But hes healthy as ever, just didnt know how to put himself to sleep! Now i just pop him in his cot and he goes to sleep without any help. Even with him getting his 2 front teeth!
I could not recommend christine enough!
She has made my family so much happier, and we are all getting the rest we need!
Thank you so much for you help Christine.



Tegan contacted me when Ella was about 5 months old. They initially went to a day Sleep School and introduced a routine and settling practices which were working initially but didn’t last very long.  Ella was waking multiple times overnight and had to be rocked or fed back to sleep.  Ella also had a dummy.


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I’m Christine, the founder of Happy Sleepers. I am an ICU nurse, Midwife, Qualified Sleep Consultant and I’m a mum of twins.  I’ve helped 100’s of babies and parents in the past and now I’m here to help YOU! 🙂

Case Study 1


Danica contacted me when she was completely exhausted. Her little Calvin, who was 9 months old at the time, was a very bad sleeper.  He was unable to self settle which meant that Danica constantly had to rock and feed him to sleep and he had a dummy.  He would wake up every 45 minutes overnight and then ended up co-sleeping.  She was so tired during the day that he partner sometimes needed to come home from work to give her some time to sleep which had a big impact on their finances.  She was desperate for sleep and change!

This is what Danica had to say after completing the Happy Sleepers Program:

Never in my wildest dreams did i actually think my 10 month old son would fall asleep for longer than 30 minutes and without me rocking him; from anywhere up until 40 minutes! I would get to the point of putting a movie on and just staying up all night because he was waking so frequently anyway!! How did I survive? NO IDEA!!
Thanks to Christine and her 14 day ring-a-Rosie plan, as I’m from Adelaide, my handsome little man now sleeps 12 hours a night!!!!! I’m a different person! I can chase him around and keep up with him! He no longer has permanent purple bags under his eyes which I was sooo embarrassed about! He’s so much happier and throws big smiles daily which was so rare before! His social anxiety/shyness/clingy behaviour has completely subsided and he loves going places with me now! He is happier in the car to just watch or fall asleep if he is tired instead of screaming. OMG the list of things could go on!!!
I honestly can’t thank Christine enough!! She also has a great payment plan that worked so well for me during this busy end of year!! The technique was gentle and allowed me to be with my son while he needed me! I would recommend it 1000x over!!!! Xx


The next mum is Veronica:


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I’m Christine, the founder of Happy Sleepers. I am an ICU nurse, Midwife, Qualified Sleep Consultant and I’m a mum of twins.  I’ve helped 100’s of babies and parents in the past and now I’m here to help YOU! 🙂

Straight talk about crying

The single biggest issue I encounter as a child sleep consultant is the question of crying. Is it okay to let your child “cry it out?” If so, how much crying should you put up with? How long will a child cry for before he falls asleep? Is it healthy? Won’t your baby resent you if you just let him cry all by himself?

Now, before you start to worry that I’m an advocate of the “cry it out” school of sleep training, please don’t panic! I would never advise you to leave your baby crying in his cot alone even for a minute if that’s something you’re not comfortable doing. (Believe me, that’s the way most of my clients feel.)

So please keep reading… In the chapters ahead, I’ll offer you a number of different solutions to try with your baby – and I’m confident you’ll find the one that works best for you and your family.


I remember when my husband and I finally decided that we’d had enough of the sleepless nights, and started the process of teaching our little twins to sleep through the night. The idea of listening to them crying alone – for who knows how long – was absolutely terrifying. In fact, it was this fear that had prevented us from taking this step on a number of previous occasions.

To combat our fear, we decided to take a good hard look at our situation. As a couple, we had begun to feel the strains of all our sleepless nights. We were staying up until midnight, only getting a few hours of uninterrupted sleep at a time, having very little time alone, and not connecting the same way we used to. We could see that if things continued this way much longer, we would begin to drift apart and our relationship would pay the price. And that was something we refused to let happen.

We also looked at how we were functioning as parents. I was tired, worried, and depressed about my nursing skills, and feeling resentment toward my husband – and even worse, my babies! And since neither my husband nor I had enjoyed a decent night’s sleep in months, we were both grouchy a lot of the time.

We decided to make a list of the pros and cons involved in teaching our son to sleep through the night. On the “pro” side, we would no longer have any of the problems I just described, and – much more important – our son would be happier and healthier because sleep is so important to the emotional and physical wellbeing of infants and toddlers.

We also knew that our friends, parents, and family would be greatly relieved to know that we would finally be getting some sleep and would have the energy to spend some quality time with them, instead of turning down their invitations to dinners, parties, and all the other get-togethers that we were always too tired or too grouchy to attend.

The list was getting pretty long on the “pros” side, so we decided to move on to the “cons.” Try as we might, we were only able to come up with one reason why we didn’t want to go ahead with teaching our twins how to sleep through the night. And that one reason was that he might cry.

The key word there is “might.” We had no idea if they actually would cry, but the very idea had been enough to hold us back from even trying to teach them to sleep through the night. As we sat there and looked at our long list of “pros,” and then looked at the

only thing we were able to identify as a con, we knew that we had made our decision.

Looking back, there wasn’t really much to be afraid of. We did have to put up with a bit of crying for the first little while, but it certainly wasn’t very much. And the end result was that everyone – especially our twins – was actually much happier now that we were all getting some sleep.

So I’m going to recommend that you now take a moment to make your own list of the pros and cons of teaching your little one to sleep through the night. But before you get started on that list, I want to provide you with some straight talk about crying and what it means for infants and toddlers.

As hard as it is to listen to your child cry, it is important to remember that infants and toddlers only have a couple of ways to communicate with us. When they are pleased, they smile, coo, giggle, and laugh. When they are angry, upset, hungry, uncomfortable, irritated, frustrated, tired, or grouchy, they cry.

Now, just as the smallest things can cause your little one to start laughing hysterically, so too can any minor annoyance launch her into a fit of crying. Have you ever let your eight-month-old play with a set of your keys, and then had to take them away because you needed to get the car started and drive somewhere? Many children will cry their lungs out if we take something away from them! But if you happen to need whatever it is they’re playing with, or if they’re playing with something dangerous, you have no choice in the matter. You’ve got to act in their best interest, even if it results in tears.

Just the other day, my son had his own juice cup and the juice cup of another toddler in his hands, and was happily running around with both of them. It wasn’t until the owner of the second juice cup toddled over to ask for his drink back that the problem began. Anthony absolutely did not want to give the other boy his juice. Of course, I tried to reason with him, explaining that he really didn’t need two juice cups and that one did, in fact, belong to the other child, but nothing would convince him.

When I finally had to take the cup from Anthony, he had a complete meltdown. He cried, kicked, and threw himself around on the floor for at least 15 minutes. Finally, I scooped him up, struggled to get him into the car, and took him home.

He cried madly for most of the ride home as well. Needless to say, it was a terrible ordeal for both of us. I was almost in tears just watching him, but I realised there was truly nothing I could do to help him. I could make sure he was safe and be there waiting with open arms when he stopped crying, but for as long as the tantrum lasted, I knew there was nothing I could do.

Now, if my son was a bit older and knew how to talk, I would have been able to reason with him, and he would have been able to explain to me why he was so upset and what he would like to do in order to make it better.

Unfortunately, infants and toddlers can’t hold rational conversations with us, so they communicate with us the only way they know how. They laugh and smile when they are happy, and they cry when they are upset.

It doesn’t get easier as they get older

I often meet with parents of two-and three-year-olds who are still having to wake up with their children a couple of times every night and help them fall back asleep (either by getting them a drink of water, reading them a story, taking their child to bed with them, etc.).When I ask these parents why on earth they have waited so long to call me, they almost always give me the same answer: “We thought he would grow out of it.”

The bad news is, children usually don’t grow out of it. Current research shows that infants who are having sleep difficulties continue to do so for three to five years. I can certainly vouch for this. At least half of the clients I have worked with over the years have had children over the age of two, so the idea that babies will grow out of it as they get older simply isn’t usually true. And unfortunately, as your child gets older, it gets harder, not easier, to see her cry

As a daughter, I can tell you that it still breaks my mother’s heart to see me cry. It’s something that never gets easier to bear. All parents hold their child’s happiness foremost in their mind. It doesn’t matter how old your child is, you are simply never going to enjoy seeing her upset.

The one thing that is critical for parents to remember is that crying isn’t going to cause any serious damage to your child. Children cry a lot. They cry for any reason. They cry for no reason. Sometimes they cry just to get our attention.

Crying at bedtime isn’t any different than crying during the day, but for some reason, it’s much harder for most parents to take.




You can’t please your child all the time

Sometimes the hardest thing to face when you are a parent is the fact that in some circumstances, the best thing you can do for your child is nothing at all. Remember the story I told you about my son throwing a tantrum because he couldn’t have two cups of juice? Well, I couldn’t give him back the cup, since that would be rewarding the tantrum, which would no doubt result in the same sort of situation happening over and over again. I couldn’t comfort him because he didn’t want me near him. And he was far too young to reason with. The only thing I could do was simply to let him be. He had to work out his distress all on his own. I could be there for him when he was finished his tantrum, and I could reassure him with my voice that everything was okay, but in the end it was up to him to calm himself down.

It’s important to remember this lesson if you find that your child cries during the first few nights she is learning to fall asleep on her own. The best thing you can do for your child is allow her the chance to work it out on her own. Children need to realize that they have control over their own bodies. They need to learn how to recognize what “tired” feels like, and how to alleviate those tired feelings without anyone’s help.

It is important for them to understand that sleep is not a scary place, or a bad thing, or a punishment, or a battle that has to be fought, but a nice, warm comfortable place to put tired feelings to rest so they can wake up in the morning feeling happy, refreshed, and ready for a new day.

Once my clients have finished my program, they often tell me that their children have actually started to ask to go to bed. Or they will ask for a bath and start walking to the bathroom, knowing that a bath is the first step of their bedtime routine. They will even point to their cribs and say “night-night” when they are feeling sleepy.

The first time your child exhibits this kind of behaviour will almost certainly be a very rewarding experience for you, because it will be clear to you that your child understands the reason for sleeping. He will recognize what “tired” feels like and will be happy to go to bed to make those tired feelings go away. He will look forward to his “alone time” in his room when he can have a chat with his favorite stuffed animal and tell him all about his day before finally falling asleep.

Is crying a necessary step?

Do you absolutely have to let your child cry to teach him to sleep through the night?


I’m being honest with you. I’d love to tell you that I have discovered a way to teach infants and toddlers to sleep through the night that involves no protest on their part, but I haven’t. And despite the claims of people who will try to sell you a magic blanket or CD that’s supposed to put your child instantly to sleep, I don’t think that such a method exists. However, as I hope you understand by now, a little crying isn’t going to do any damage to you or your child.

The important thing to remember is that it’s not the crying that will help your little one fall asleep – it’s the self-soothing strategies that he will have an opportunity to develop in order to stop himself from crying. His crying comes from a change to the old routine. Putting your baby in his crib at night awake might be a completely new experience for him. He will be confused and upset by this new change, and yes, he’ll probably cry to express his displeasure.

But remember that your child wants to stop crying as much – if not more – than you want him to. He’ll cry for a while because he knows that this is the strategy that has worked for him in the past, but once he figures out that it’s up to him to get himself to sleep, he’ll likely figure out how to make that happen faster than you’d think!

The bottom line is, change of any kind is a difficult thing for everyone. How many times have you vowed to eat healthier, quit smoking, or exercise more? Making change happen is tough for us adults, so it is only fair to expect our children to find it difficult as well.

The good news is that infants and toddlers learn much more quickly than we do. And as you’ll soon discover for yourself, they figure out how to soothe themselves into a deep and restful sleep sooner than you’d imagine.

How much crying?

So just how much crying should you expect? It depends. Some children will cry for an hour or more for the first few nights before they fall asleep. Others will doze off after just a few minutes. Some children will get the hang of things in a couple of days; others will take a couple of weeks.

Here’s an example for you, drawn from an experience with a family I worked with:

Melissa and Steve were at their wits’ end by the time they gave me a call. Their little six-month-old boy, Michael, had never slept for more than two hours at a time. When Michael was two weeks old, his weight gain began to slow down. On the instruction of her doctor, Melissa began to wake Michael up every two hours through the night to increase her milk supply and to ensure that Michael was getting the calories he needed. This started a terrible cycle for both Melissa and Michael because Michael became used to waking up every two hours for a feed and Melissa had to get up with him each time and nurse him back to sleep.

When Melissa called me, she was in an awful state of mind. Michael’s weight gain was back on track, so he didn’t really need to be nursing every two hours, but it had become a habit. As a result, Melissa was so sleep-deprived that her marriage was starting to suffer. She felt no resentment toward her baby over her lack of sleep. Instead, she had been taking out all her frustrations on her husband.

When I met Steve, he was convinced that Michael was going to be their only child if things continued the way they were going. He also felt that his relationship with Melissa was going to be in serious trouble if things didn’t change soon.

After I met with Melissa and Steve and gave them all the same information I’m giving you here, they decided to give my plan a try. Melissa was positive that Michael would cry hysterically all night long if she didn’t nurse him, but she decided that she would at least see how long she could hold out before caving in to his cries.

When I spoke to Melissa the next morning, she was ecstatic! She said that they had followed their plan and had Michael in bed by 7:15 pm.. He was definitely confused by the change of events in his bedtime routine, but Melissa followed her plan and after 40 minutes, Michael was asleep. Melissa, who was utterly exhausted from months of sleep deprivation, soon went to bed herself, not sure what the rest of the night had in store for her.

You can imagine her surprise when she woke with a start at 3:00 a.m. and realized that she had been asleep for almost seven straight hours! She was convinced that something must have happened to Michael’s, and ran into his bedroom – only to find the little guy happily snoozing away. A few minutes later, Michael woke up and started to cry, but Melissa decided to leave him for a few minutes to see if he would go back to sleep on his own. And to her surprise, he was asleep again in 10 minutes – and slept until 6:00 a.m.!!

Melissa could not believe how well the night went. Though she knew every night might not go so well, she had the motivation she needed to keep going with her sleep plan. Well, it’s now nine months later and I’m happy to report that Michael is still doing very well. He goes to bed happily at 7:00 p.m. and sleeps until six or seven the next morning. He is also having two solid naps a day, and everyone is happier and healthier now that they are all sleeping through the night!

Admittedly, this is a best-case scenario. Michael learned self-soothing strategies very quickly and continued to do well night after night. Melissa and Steve were thrilled by the results. Steve later confided in me that the changes they had made to Michael’s sleep schedule had improved the quality of their relationship and also their happiness as parents. He was no longer against having more children, and was happy to have his wife back! When people ask me how long it usually takes for a child to learn how to sleep through the night, I hate to give them an answer, as it can be discouraging for them if their child takes longer than average.

That said, you have every right to ask this question, so here’s the answer: It takes an average of five nights, and the average child will cry for 45 – 90 minutes before falling asleep on her own. These numbers are based on my work with hundreds of families, but they are still just averages. It will happen more quickly for some children, more slowly for others.

Is this harmful?

I am sometimes asked by concerned parents whether I think that letting their infant or toddler cry at bedtime will lead to some kind of permanent psychological damage. The answer is most definitely NOT! I’m unaware of any credible evidence from a published medical study that mentions any link between letting a child cry at bedtime for a few nights and psychological problems later in life.

Now, I am not for a moment suggesting that you ignore the cries of your child – especially if they sound serious. If there is any possibility that your child might be crying because she is in danger, or because she is in pain, then of course you need to go and help her! What kind of a parent would you be otherwise? Even if you’re uncertain whether the cries of your child are serious or not, you still go in and check on her. Simply entering the room of your child and checking to see that she’s all right isn’t going to prevent her from learning how to sleep through the night.

IMPORTANT NOTE: Some parents will find that their child will seem “needier” or “clingy” during the first week or two that they start implementing a sleep schedule. This is normal for many children, and it almost always resolves itself within a week or two.

Don’t feel guilty

Personally, I feel that one of the biggest dangers in any relationship – including the one you have with your children – is letting guilt get the best of you. Guilt is a funny thing. Like my grandmother used to say, “Guilt is like sitting in a rocking chair; it’ll give you something to do, but it will never get you anywhere!” Before you give in to those feelings of guilt, take a minute to think about what you are feeling guilty about. All you are doing is teaching your child an important and healthy lesson. The ability to sleep peacefully is a gift that you are giving to your child, a gift that she will be able to use for the rest of her life.

Now, I know that I feel a little guilty when my son cries because I won’t give him a second – or third or fourth – piece of my chocolate bar. Of course, not filling him with chocolate is the right thing to do, and not giving in to his whining actually makes me a better parent than if I did give him an entire chocolate bar to eat. Still, I can’t help but feel a bit sad for the little guy!

So why do we find it so easy to give into guilt?

The answer is simple: We want to please other people.

We especially want to please the people we love. And we really aren’t used to people crying in order to get what they want – especially if we’re first-time parents. (Can you imagine what you would do if your friends, co-workers, or family members started crying whenever they didn’t get what they wanted from you?)

When our children start to cry – our children who we love more than anyone else on the whole planet – then we naturally want to do whatever it takes to stop them from crying and make them happy. The problem is, giving in to that crying often means exchanging your child’s wellbeing for your own peace of mind. (“This chocolate bar may not be a healthy snack for my baby, but at least he’s happy now that I’ve given him some and I don’t have to feel like a monster for making him cry with all these people around us listening to him!”)

I know that everyone gives in to their child from time to time. If you’ve ever been stuck on a crowded airplane with a crying baby, you know that you’d do anything to get him or her to stop crying.

However, if you make a habit of always doing whatever it takes to stop your child from crying, then you’ll wind up with a real problem. Children – especially infants and toddlers – learn by observing what happens when they perform certain behaviours. When they get what they want as a result of a certain behaviour (getting to breastfeed whenever they cry, for example) then you can bet they’ll keep repeating that behaviour for as long as it is effective!

Putting it all together

So what are my feelings and recommendations about crying?

I think that it is tremendously important that children learn to sleep well. It is important for children to understand that they have the power to resolve their own sleep needs. It is important that children learn to understand what “tired” feels like and connect the fact that sleep is the only way to make those tired feelings go away. It is important for your child not to have anxiety or fear around going to bed. In order for your child to learn all these important things, some crying will usually be involved.

Like I said before, change is hard work. Changing your child’s sleep habits will most likely be met with some protest. The best, quickest, and most effective way to teach her how to sleep through the night is to let her figure it out on her own, and yes, this will probably involve some crying.

However, I also know firsthand (and through the stories of the hundreds of families I have helped) that letting a child cry alone in her room is more than some parents can bear. And I know that if you are overwhelmed by feelings of guilt and sadness – emotions that are often caused by letting a child cry alone in her room – you won’t be successful in teaching your child to sleep through the night. So here is my advice to those of you who are overwhelmed by the idea of leaving your child alone to cry in her cot:

Feel free to stay in your child’s room with her.

Of course, your child will probably still cry even though you are in the room with him. He will still want you to pick him up, play with him, feed him, nurse him, read him a story, and so on, but it is important that you not give in to these requests. The only reason you are there is to give occasional reassurance and comfort to your child.

Here’s an example of a strategy that Jim and Mary – clients of mine who were uncomfortable with the idea of leaving their daughter, Melissa, alone – successfully implemented:

First, Jim and Mary would give Melissa a bath, brush her teeth and hair, put her into her pajamas, and read a story with her. They then sang to her for a few minutes, gave her a bottle of milk, and then laid her down in her cot once she had finished her drink. After putting Melissa in her crib, they would turn the light off, and then sit themselves in a chair near her bed. As she fussed, they would reassure her, frequently repeating in a soft, soothing voice, “It’s okay baby, Mommy and Daddy are here. Don’t worry. But now it’s time for night-night. Go to sleep, honey.”

The first couple of nights they would also give their daughter a brief stroke on the face now and then to let her know they were still there. It took about 30 minutes of crying the first night for her to fall asleep, about 20 the following night, and about 10 the third. After the third night, they would leave the room after five minutes (while she was still crying). It took another few nights for her to get used to this system, but after a week or so, she was sleeping better and everyone was much happier at bedtime.

(Previously, she had taken about an hour to nurse herself to sleep. She would suckle for five minutes, doze for five minutes, then wake and suckle for five more minutes. This would continue for up to an hour and a half, until the mother was convinced that her daughter was in a deep enough sleep that she could lay her down in her cot without waking her.)

Final thoughts:

My goal for this chapter is that, after reading it, you will understand that a little crying is not the end of the world. In fact, by letting your child cry a bit and teaching him how to soothe himself to sleep, you are giving him an important gift that he will carry with him throughout his entire life.

By this point in the book, I also hope that you share my appreciation for how incredibly important sleep is, especially for infants and children. They desperately need their sleep in order for their minds to develop properly and so that they can start each day rested, refreshed, and ready to learn. Refusing to give the tools they need to develop healthy sleep habits will be far more harmful to your children than a few minutes of crying.

Finally, I want you to understand the difference between the strategies I am recommending and the idea of letting a baby “cry it out.” Letting a baby “cry it out” implies that you have done nothing to prepare your child for bedtime and are just going to put him into his crib, close the bedroom door, and walk away!

To me, this kind of treatment is totally unfair to your child. You need to prepare him for sleep by teaching him predictable cues that tell him bedtime is approaching, and you need to make sure he knows you are there to help him if he really needs you. What I recommend to my clients is a complete sleep time strategy that will probably involve some crying. Where many parents go wrong is that they decide to try the so-called “cry it out” approach – and then, without learning the importance of creating a bedtime routine, they just put their children into their cribs and abandon them!

That’s why it is so important for you to take the time to read through this book and educate yourself about how sleep works and why it is so critical to your child’s development. By understanding how sleep happens, and by giving your child the tools she needs to soothe herself to sleep, you can rest assured that you are doing the right thing.


Sound good? Then let’s get started!


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I’m Christine, the founder of Happy Sleepers. I am an ICU nurse, Midwife, Qualified Sleep Consultant and I’m a mum of twins.  I’ve helped 100’s of babies and parents in the past and now I’m here to help YOU! 🙂

Is sleep important?

With the Happy Sleepers Program, it’s all about teaching your infant or toddler how to sleep through the night. I’ve taught the following strategies to hundreds of families through group seminars and one-on-one consultations, and have watched as amazed parents suddenly find themselves getting a full night’s sleep after only a few nights of implementing my “Happy Sleepers” system.

One of the main reasons this system is so effective is that I always give my clients a brief lesson on exactly why sleep is so important – both for them and for their children.

Sleep is something we all spend a lot of time doing (though maybe not so much in our first few months as new parents). Yet most of us don’t understand what sleep really is, or why we seem to need so much of it. As a result, almost everyone takes sleep for granted – that is, until we start not getting enough of it!

Many of my clients offer clear examples of how damaging it can be to neglect your own sleep needs. More often than not, an exhausted mother breaks down in tears and frustration at some point during my meeting with her. It’s not uncommon for parents to feel as though they have lost all control over their lives after just a week or two of baby-induced sleep deprivation. They’ll also often confess to me that their relationship with their partner is beginning to suffer.


In many households, one parent has to go off to work early every morning, which can make night-time wakings a real bone of contention. On the one hand, Mom or Dad really does need sleep to deal with the demands of a day at the office, but it is also important for the other parent to get his or her sleep as well. After all, a day with the children is awfully demanding too!

The majority of the families I work with, the mother ends up fighting most of the night-time battles all by herself. Unfortunately, this can often lead to feelings of resentment toward her partner, or even toward her child.

A study in the June 2001 issue of Paediatrics related infant sleep problems to postnatal depression and showed that mothers of poor sleepers consistently have more depressive symptoms than mothers of good sleepers. This makes perfect sense; anyone’s mood is bound to turn sour after several days – or weeks, or even months – of continued sleep deprivation.

This lack of sleep can cause parents to become obsessed with the idea of sleep. I remember meeting with a mother named Wendy who told me an interesting story:

“I remember looking at other women on the streets or in grocery stores and instead of thinking, ‘Oh, I wish I had hair like hers,’ or ‘What a great figure she has,’ I started thinking, ‘Look how well‑rested she looks… I bet she sleeps through the night!’ Whenever I would meet with other mothers and discover that their children had always slept through the night, I would seethe with jealousy! They would try to offer helpful hints, or say things like, ‘He’ll grow out of it,’ but I was really beginning to doubt that he ever would! There were even nights I would go to bed and pray – to whoever was listening – that tonight be the night my son would finally sleep for more than three hours!”

The frustration of not getting enough sleep is by no means limited to mothers, however. A father at one of my seminars began the day by declaring that his daughter was the first and only child he was ever going to have. It was just too hard on both him and his wife to be getting up every two hours during the night. He felt his wife was taking out all her frustrations on him, and it was causing too much strain on their relationship. He swore that if things didn’t change quickly and dramatically, he was going to have a vasectomy! (Thankfully, his daughter’s sleep issues were soon under control, and he and his wife are now planning to have another baby very soon.)

Of course, if you are reading this book, you most likely already know how terrible it feels not to be getting enough sleep, so let’s move on to a brief discussion of why your child may be having difficulty sleeping.


How important is sleep?

“Sleep is the power source that keeps your mind alert and calm. Every night and at every nap, sleep recharges the brain’s battery. Sleeping well increases brainpower just as weight lifting builds stronger muscles, because sleeping well increases your attention span and allows you to be physically relaxed and mentally alert at the same time. Then you are at your personal best.”

– Dr. Marc Weissbluth, author of Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child

When I am explaining the importance of sleep to my clients during a seminar, I like to make a comparison between sleeping and eating. Both are necessary for survival. When people eat an unhealthy diet, they become malnourished and their body suffers. In the same way, people who have unhealthy sleep habits become mentally malnourished. Lack of sleep starves them of the energy they need to be happy and well adjusted.

No sane parents would raise their children entirely on a diet of candy, because everyone knows that it would not only be terribly unhealthy for their children, but would also teach them bad eating habits – habits they would carry with them throughout their childhood and probably for the rest of their lives.

Unfortunately, our society isn’t nearly as well-educated about the importance of sleep as we are about the importance of eating a balanced and nutritious diet.

The good news is that doctors and the rest of the medical community have become more vocal about the importance of a healthy night’s sleep in the past few years. Dr. William Dement, founder of the Stanford University Sleep Research Centre, has conducted extensive research that suggests sleep is the single most important factor in predicting how long people will live – more influential than diet, exercise, or heredity.

Our society is especially ignorant of the importance of sleep for infants and toddlers. Current research shows that between 20 and 30 percent of all infants and toddlers will have some difficulty sleeping. And though many parents tell themselves, “They’ll row out of it,” the truth is that the majority of these cases persist for three to five years.

Infants or toddlers who aren’t getting enough sleep are easy to spot. They will frequently rub their eyes and faces throughout the day – even if they have only been awake for an hour – and they are more likely than well-rested children to suddenly “lose it.” We’ve all had experiences where our child starts throwing a tantrum in public; these breakdowns are far more common for children who are tired than for those who have been getting the sleep they need.

Many sleep-deprived children also start to develop behaviours that are usually called “overactive” or “hyperactive.” They may even be labelled as “attention deficit” children. Dr. Judith Owens, the director of the Paediatric Sleep Disorders Clinic and the Learning, Attention, and Behaviour Program at Hasbro Children’s Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island, notes that there is a huge overlap between sleep deprivation and psychiatric disorders such as attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder.

The bottom line is this: Sleep is tremendously important. It is just as important for your child as a healthy diet or a loving home.

If your child is not getting enough sleep every day, he is being put at a disadvantage. He will not be able to deal with the pressures of the day as well as his peers, and he will probably have a more difficult time acquiring and retaining knowledge than a child who is getting the proper amount of sleep.

The importance of the “right kind” of sleep

Sleep experts agree that “consolidated” (uninterrupted) sleep is the most restful and healthy kind of sleep for both infants and adults. Sleep that is interrupted by one or more awakenings during the night usually leads to daytime sleepiness, a decrease in mental flexibility and attention, and mood impairments.

In other words, sleep that is broken up by several “night wakings” is not the same as sleeping through the night. So it’s important that adults and children get all the consolidated sleep they need. Even adults who have had just one night of fragmented sleep show a dramatic reduction in motivation and attention. They often feel overwhelmed by the tasks of the day and have difficulty making decisions. The effects on infants and children are even more harmful.

In order for both adults and children and adults to function at their peak performance, they must be getting adequate, consolidated sleep. Children who sleep 10 to 12 hours a night wake up well-rested, attentive, cheerful, and are best able to cope with and learn from their environment. Parents, too, will feel better equipped to perform the demanding tasks of work and family life.

Sleep is important for you, too!

I hope you’re starting to see how incredibly important sleep is for your child. Once you’ve implemented the system in this book and your little one is consistently sleeping through the night, I think you’ll be amazed at how much happier and more alert she will be during the day. But it is just as important that you understand how important sleep is for you and your partner as well! Sleep deprivation is a powerful thing, and if you’ve noticed a negative change in yourself and your spouse since your child arrived (or since her sleep difficulties began), there’s a good chance that this change has been caused by the fact that you’re simply not getting enough sleep.

For many new parents, the first few months of parenthood are the first time in their lives when they are prevented from getting as much sleep as they want. Gone are the days of lazing around in bed until 11:00 on a Saturday morning – because your new baby is now waking you up at 5:00 a.m.! And as if that wasn’t bad enough, you’re also getting up a number of times every night to nurse or soothe your child back to sleep.

Now, if this is your first child and he or she is less than a few months old, you might not notice the effects of this sleep deprivation. After all, you’ve got this wonderful new person to care for, and nothing else seems to matter very much. But believe me, after a few more months of not getting enough sleep, not even the joy of being a new parent will replace your need for a decent night’s sleep!

The National Sleep Foundation recently released a comprehensive study showing that parents of children with sleep difficulties get an average of 6.8 hours of sleep per night – considerably less than the eight hours adults typically need to feel rested and function optimally.

And as we all know, when we’re tired, we’re cranky.

And when we’re cranky, we tend to take it out on those closest to us. For most families, this means that your spouse is the one who receives the brunt of your grouchiness. The job of raising children is tough at times, and you need to be able to count on the love and support of your partner. That support can be hard to muster up at times if you’re always at each other’s throats because you’re both so darn tired all the time! In addition, tired parents are likely to suffer at work. Of course, employers are usually pretty forgiving of the forgetfulness and fatigue new parents experience during the first few months of their child’s life, but if you’ve been showing up for work utterly exhausted for the past year, then you can be pretty sure that the quality of your work has been suffering.

Problems with your spouse or poor work performance are frightening possible outcomes. However, the most serious consequence of sleep deprivation is that it can lead to dangerous feelings of disappointment, resentment, or even anger toward your child. Early childhood is when we learn a great deal about emotions, so if you are often grouchy with your child, your behaviour can have a strong negative impact on how your child interacts with others as she gets older.

Some of my clients have privately confessed to being so fed up with their child’s crying in the middle of the night that they have occasionally had thoughts about shaking their baby. Of course, they’ve never done it. But the thought itself can be terrifying for parents. And I’m sure that for every parent who has told me about these feelings, there are a dozen more who feel the same way but are too embarrassed to tell me.

So sleep is undeniably important – not just for your child, but for you and the rest of your family as well. If you have children who are already in school and are being awakened in the night by a crying baby, it can have a terrible effect on their emotional health and, of course, their schoolwork.

The good news is that there is an easy solution to all these problems. Once your child is sleeping through the night, most of these problems will start to melt away. You and your spouse will be able to start spending some quality time together again… You’ll feel ready to face the day when you wake up in the morning… Your friends and co-workers will start to notice a real change in your mood and the way you look.


Sound good? Then let’s get started!


For more information on sleep training, please check out my Happy Sleepers program.  I guarantee, you’ll be glad you did it!

Sleep Well





I’m Christine, the founder of Happy Sleepers. I am an ICU nurse, Midwife, Qualified Sleep Consultant and I’m a mum of twins.  I’ve helped 100’s of babies and parents in the past and now I’m here to help YOU! 🙂


Babies are growing very fast during their first year of life. There is the physical growth (height & weight) but also developmental milestones. Developmental milestones are skills the baby starts mastering like rolling, sitting and walking.

Babies tend to follow the same progression throughout these milestones, but remember, every baby is different which means the stages can be different and the length in each stage can be different but, like teething, it’s good to know what to expect, when and to know how to manage it. It decreases the stress and anxiety around it.

Month 1

During the first month of life, most of the babies’ behaviours are reflexive. Everything happens automatically. There are 4 main reflexes.

1. Mouthing reflex

  • Sucking and swallowing reflex. A baby will automatically begin to suck when their mouth or lips are touched.
  • Rooting reflex. A baby will automatically turn his head towards your hand if their cheek is touched. This fades at 4 months.

These reflexes are very important for baby’s survival, helping them to find food.

2. Startle (Moro) reflex

This reflex occurs when a baby hears a loud noise or when he falls backwards. His arms and legs extend away from his body. The Startle Reflex will keep waking your baby when he sleeps. To improve sleep, you have to swaddle your baby. Initially your baby might not like it, but it’s important to persist to improve sleep. This fades at 4 months.

3. Grasp reflex

Baby will automatically grab the finger or object when it is placed in the palm of his hand. This fades at 5 months.

4. Stepping reflex

When a baby is placed with his feet on a flat surface, he will automatically step one foot in front of the other. This fades around 2 months.

1-3 Months

  • More aware of their surroundings
  • Follow moving objects
  • Starts smiling at familiar faces
  • Can hold his head up for a few seconds when on the tummy
  • Open and shut hands
  • Grab and shakes hand toys
  • Pushes legs down when on a flat surface
  • Make cooing sounds

4-7 Months

  • Starts coordinating vision, touch and hearing
  • Starts rolling (Stop swaddling)
  • Starts sitting up
  • Some may start crawling
  • Starts pushing up by using their arms and arch their back to lift up the chest. These movements strengthen the upper body preparing the body for sitting up.
  • Rocking while on his stomach
  • Kicking legs
  • Bring toys to their mouths
  • Discovering feet and toes
  • Like looking at themselves in the mirror
  • Transfers objects from hand to hand
  • Laughs
  • Babbles

8-12 Months

  • Sit without support
  • Starts crawling (7-8 months)
  • Very mobile – like exploring (Very important to childproof your house especially the kitchen and bathroom).
  • Starts standing (Around 9-10 months)
  • First step around 12 months
  • Like to poke their fingers through holes (Remember to cover all power points)
  • Usually first word at 12 months
  • Separation anxiety and stranger anxiety can start at this point

By the end of this period :

  • Gets in and out of sitting position independently
  • Gets on hand and knees position crawls
  • Pulls self up to standing position, walks holding on to furniture, stands without support and eventually takes a few steps without support and begins to walk
  • Uses pincer grasp (Thumb and first finger)
  • Places objects into container and takes them out of container
  • More functional activities like holding a spoon and turning pages in a book


Sits alone – 5 to 9 months

Crawls – 6 to 12 months

Stands – 8 to 17 months

Walks alone – 9 to 18 months

First words – 1 to 3 years

Two word phrases – 15 to 32 months

Responsive smile – 1 to 3 months

Finger feeds – 7 to 14 months

Drinks from cup unassisted – 9 to 17 months

Uses spoon – 12 to 20 months

Bowel control – 16 to 42 months

Dresses self unassisted – 3.25 to 5 years

Hope this gives you more information on this topic.

Sleep well.





I’m Christine, the founder of Happy Sleepers. I am an ICU nurse, Midwife, Qualified Sleep Consultant and I’m a mum of twins.  I’ve helped 100’s of babies and parents in the past and now I’m here to help YOU! 🙂

Maternity bag

Have you packed your hospital bag yet ? Do you know what you’re going to need ? Majority of mums continue to work very close to their delivery date and then it can be a big rush getting everything ready.

Here is a very good checklist to avoid stress and leaving things at home that might have made your stay at the hospital a lot easier and pleasant.


  • Comfortable undies (big ones)
  • Nipple cream (if you’re going to breastfeed)
  • Breast pads
  • Maternity pads (Lots!)
  • Comfy clothes (big around the waist especially if you’re have a C-section)
  • Snacks
  • Phone charger
  • Bag for dirty/wet clothes
  • Slippers & socks
  • Toiletries :
    • Soap
    • Bath sponge
    • Shampoo & conditioner
    • Deodorant
    • Toothbrush
    • Toothpaste
  • Comfy bra
  • Drink bottle
  • Breastfeeding pillow (if you’re going to breastfeed)
  • Lip balm
  • Pen & notebook (you always want to write something)
  • Small change (for vending machine or shop)
  • Camera
  • Personal pillow
  • Towel
  • Tissues
  • Ipad/Laptop
  • Music
  • Linen saver
  • Ural tablets (if you’re having a natural birth)
  • Soft toilet paper
  • Hair dryer
  • Hair ties (if your hair is long)
  • Hand sanitiser
  • Hot/cold pack


  • Newborn nappies
  • 2 outfits per day
    • mittens
    • socks
    • hat
    • suits
    • singlet
  • Wipes
  • Bottles & formula (if you’re going to bottle feed)
  • Toiletries :
    • Message oil
    • Baby wash
    • Moisturiser
    • Nappy cream
  • Wrap/Swaddle
  • Towel
  • Baby blanket
  • Cotton buds
  • Little eyes (eye wipes)
  • Disposable changing mat
  • Nappy bags
  • Bibs
  • Face washer (soft)
  • Burping cloth
  • Baby brush
  • Baby nail set

Good luck

Sleep well


Second baby on the way, how to prepare my toddler

Pregnancy while having a toddler can be a very tiring time for you. The demands upon you (work, your partner, your toddler, running household, ante-natal visits and preparing for the new baby) may leave you with little time for yourself. Now it is very important to try and focus more on yourself (to get enough rest) and your toddler. Spent as much time with your toddler while it is only you and him/her. It’s going to be a lot different once the new baby is there.

When to tell your toddler

Not too soon. A very young toddler may have little understanding that a baby is in mummy’s tummy and their concept of time is minimal and months may be too long for them to tolerate. On the other hand, toddlers are amazingly astute – so your ballooning body will catch their eye at some point, and that will prove a good moment to spill the beans. Have pictures ready to help with the understanding.

For many toddlers, the baby will not be real to them until the baby is born.

Let her touch your tummy (especially when baby is moving and kicking). She might also enjoy coming along to an ante-natal appointment and listening to your baby’s heartbeat.

How to cope and prepare toddler around birth

It can be very difficult to have a toddler around when you go into labour. Your toddler is not going to understand that you’re in labour and is expecting a lot of pain. To see you in pain, may be too traumatic to handle for your toddler. It might be best for her to stay with other family members or friends.

Prepare your toddler for the birth day and that she will have to stay with someone while mommy & daddy are at the hospital.

The first meeting is often seen as a crucial litmus test of the sibling relationship but I don’t think so. I think, try to keep the focus on the toddler rather than the baby. Best advice is to try and make sure the baby is in a cot or bassinette when your toddler makes her entrance, so your arms are open to cuddle her and you can explore the newborn together.

Feelings towards the new baby

It is very common for your toddler to have jealous feelings towards the new baby. He was the centre of attention since birth and now all of a sudden this new baby is taking all of the attention. He may also feel overwhelmed by the sudden whirl of friends, photo’s, gifts and flowers.

The feelings of an older child can easily be overlooked.

Younger toddlers, who can’t verbalise their feelings, might regress to earlier behaviours –like thumb sucking, wanting to drink from a bottle, forgetting their recent potty training skills and using baby talk to get your attention.

Older toddlers and kids might express their feelings by testing your patience, misbehaving, throwing tantrums or refusing to eat. These problems are usually short-lived and a little preparation can help.

Here are some tips:

  • Have a regular one on one time with your toddler (no baby present) -Watch him ride his tricycle, blowing bubbles with him, have a simple conversation with him.
  • Look at photos where he was a baby. Point out the different stages (rolling, crawling, and walking). Let him know that the baby will grow up and one day he will be big enough to play with him.
  • Give him a special gift from the new baby. It may help him feel a bit more positive about the new little stranger in the house.
  • Get your toddler involved when people come and visit the baby. Let him show them the new nursery.
  • Let your toddler help pick out items for the new baby’s room.
  • Reinforce your older child’s role in the family, saying that he or she will be the “big brother/sister” to the new baby.

Looking after yourself

Your new baby and toddler both need a mummy. Don’t let yourself get overtired by trying to do too much. People don’t expect a tidy in control house. Most visitors will also be happy to make tea & coffee and to help with simple chores. Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it.

If you’re lucky enough to get your toddler and new baby asleep at the same time, you need to rest too. Even 15 min of rest can do wonders.

Relax, rest and enjoy this special time.


Sleep well


When can I move my toddler to a big boy bed?

It’s always a very exciting time for parents and toddlers to transition from a cot to a “big boy bed”. Obviously the toddler likes his new bed and for some reason parents just can’t wait to move the “baby” (who is not a baby anymore) into a big bed.

Most parents do this transition early and then they end up with a child running around in the house in the middle of the night. This situation can be very unsafe especially if the child gets up and the parents don’t know.

There are usually a few reasons why parents want to move their child into a big bed:

  • Sibling on the way, parents needs the cot for the new baby
  • The toddler managed to climb out of the cot and fell (safety)
  • The toddler ask for a big boy bed

In my opinion, a toddler should not move out of his cot before the age of 2.5 years – 3 years. Mentally and psychologically your toddler needs to be ready to move to a toddler bed. He needs to understand the concept “It’s sleepy time” now and he needs to stay in his bed. He needs to understand that he is not allowed to get up in the middle of the night (unless he wants to go to the toilet if he is already toilet trained) and if he does get up, there will be a consequence.

If your child does not understand that, he is not ready to move to a toddler bed. You will end up in a situation where your child keeps getting up in the middle of the night and you will have to get up to take him back. At the end of the day you’re going to be so tired that you’re going to put your toddler in your bed so you can just get some sleep. Co-sleeping then will start other problems.


If you face the following problems, try to fix the problem, rather than moving your toddler to a toddler bed prematurely.

  • New baby on the way. I need the cot. It is absolutely not worth it. There are so many sites where
    parents need to get rid of old baby stock. You can get another cot for a very good price or even for free. Transitioning to a toddler bed can take time and patience. Don’t rush your toddler just because you want to kick him out of his cot.
  • Your toddler is climbing out of the cot. The best thing that does work is to put your toddler back in a sleeping bag. He will be unable to lift his legs high enough to climb out. If you have a cot where the bar of the cot is higher than the front, turn the cot around. Now the cot will be too high for him to get out.
  • Start a reward chart. Encourage positive behaviour; he gets a star if he doesn’t get out of the cot. When the chart is full he can get something special, like ice cream or he can pick a toy when you go shopping.


  • Do consequences. If he gets out of the cot, give him one warning. If he still tries to get out, take away his favourite toy/or something else he likes.
  • Get inventive. Think of creative ways to ways to stop him from getting out.

So the bottom of the story, don’t move your toddler out of his cot before 2.5 years or when he understands the concept that he has to stay in his cot for the whole night. He is not allowed to get out of bed unless he wants to go the toilet.

Hope these tips help if you are in the process of doing this.

Good luck 😉






In babies, constipation refers to hard bowel motions and not infrequent bowel motions. Babies may have several bowel motions per day which is normal or 1 every second or third day, which is also normal.

The most common cause for constipation is when a baby/toddler associates passing a stool with pain, so they delay toileting and the problem gets worse.

It’s quite rare in breastfed babies to be constipated.  It usually start when:

  • you start introducing solids
  • you start introducing formula or
  • when your baby is not getting enough fluids in their diet.

The most common signs of constipation is:

  • The poo is hard, dry or crumbly and looks like marbles.  You can use he Bristol Stool Chart:

  • Baby is crying and looks uncomfortable before doing a poo
  • The poo or wind smells bad
  • Baby is not eating enough
  • Baby has a hard belly

If the poo is very hard, it can sometimes cause small tears around your baby’s anus (back passage).  These little tears can bleed and course more pain and discomfort.


What to do:

  • Never give your baby medication for constipation unless prescribed by your doctor.
  • Breastfed babies:  Feed your baby more often.  See your doctor.
  • Formula fed babies:  Make sure the formula has been made up correctly (Enough water). Make sure you’re adding water to the bottle first, then the powder of the formula.
  • Solid fed babies:  Offer water/diluted fruit juice (especially prune juice) between meals. (1 part juice to 3 parts water. Encourage your baby/toddler to eat more fruit and vegetables. Many different foods can contribute to constipation.  Too much applesauce, bananas and cereal (especially rice cereal)

Other things you can do:

  • Gently move your baby’s legs in a cycling motion – this may help stimulate their bowel
  • Gently massage your baby’s tummy
  • Gentle rectal stimulation with the use of a cotton swab or rectal thermometer
  • Glycerin suppository
  • Encourage your toilet trained child to develop the habit of sitting on the toilet regularly and pushing.  Two times a day for 3 – 5 minutes each time.  Try this 20 – 30 minutes after meals
  • It can help if your child has a footstool/ box

If your baby is constipated, try to get this under control before thinking to do sleep training.  It’s very difficult to sleep train a constipated baby.


Good luck and sleep well